Table for one

Embrace being single on Valentine’s Day

Being single has its perks.

Being single on Valentine’s Day is a cause to celebrate, you’re single and doing what makes you happy. The reality of Valentine’s Day is that yes, companies market products toward people who are looking to buy something for their significant other, but what about buying something for yourself?

The reality of Valentine’s is that not everyone around you is in a relationship or are in a happy relationship for that matter. It’s much better to make a conscious decision to be with someone than choose to be with someone for the wrong reasons like; rushing into something because you’re ‘lonely,’ or you feel the pressure of graduating and want a safety net to help guide you.

One of the most important things to learn in college is how to be independent and rarely does that happen if you’ve gotten in the habit of always depending on another person. If what you want is support, it can come from friends, family (even if just a phone call) or organizations you may be involved in. Being independent is both a skill and a necessity for the “real world,” and can give you the freedom to do whatever you want, as Lizzo would say, “I don’t really need you, I’m Macaulay Culkin home alone.”

Being independent and single gives you the freedom to make the “big” decisions in life, like moving to your dream place after graduation.

Being single also gives you time to do what you want when you want. Want to hang out with friends all weekend? How about spending a whole day watching Planet Earth documentaries (okay, that’s just my guilty pleasure) or maybe you want to take on learning the guitar? The great thing is, YOU have time for that because you’re not having to juggle between making time for someone else while still trying to make time for all the things that interest you.

College is a time to grow and cultivate yourself into the person you want to be, you learn you love certain things and dislike others. You learn what communities you want to be involved in and what career path you want to follow based off solely on your own personal interests and priorities.

There are clear positives in being single. Saving money, having time to work on yourself, jumping into a new hobby and being independent are all things to celebrate on Valentine’s Day and with that, I say, table for one, please.

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