Now that I am single, I cannot say I am raking in the dates, but I will be real honest with you, I wouldn’t be interested even if there were 100 boys lined up. However, today’s technology is convinced we are constantly on the lookout for a chat, a buddy or most popular: a hookup.
Tinder, a “hookup” app — or what it is infamously known as — has swept over the 18-24 age bracket, and I literally cannot get away from it. It has affected me negatively while disturbingly also intriguing me.
The app shows a user profiles of other Tinder users. If they like what they see, they can swipe right on the screen. If not, swipe left. Users who both swipe right to each others profiles can then begin messaging one another.
The Guardian published a study revealing women will have two extreme heartbreaks, kiss over a dozen men and suffer through four agonizing dates before their “soulmate” — or whatever people call it now — comes along.
The New York Times also published some statistics showing that about 50 million people use Tinder every month. They go on to say there is are a billion profile swipes a day plus 12 million matches. It’s speed dating taken to an aesthetic and even speedier level.
So what happens to those who are trying to look for a real-time, real-life partner and not just a hookup? Tinder is seen as this throwaway app meant for a quick bang, and most leave it at that. But then why is it so unfortunately popular?
Tinder executives and employees will argue and protest that their app is not solely used for flings. However, their main demographic is seen as most active in that type of activity and will naturally utilize it for their advantage.
Maybe females are taking Tinder swipes and translating them into our dozen men we will kiss, the awful dates we will go on and our expected two heartbreaks. It’s our generation’s way of channeling our angst and energy into relationships that are less intimate (vulnerability-wise) and faster.
Investing time and feelings into relationships sometimes ends harshly and exhaustingly, so using Tinder as a way to find a partner or a potential fling may be a second-best bet.
Unfortunately, I cannot believe you will find and develop a life-long, loving relationship on an app like Tinder. It attracts the creeps, both girls and guys, who are self-entitled and compliment you only to receive something physical in return before they continue their weak friend zone argument.
Perhaps it may seem that I am bitter, and maybe I am. But an app that is taking an opportunity to be quick and cheap about something that is meant to be lasting and meaningful seems to be quite the left-swipe to me.